It is but quite normal for a male and female to date each other in their lives. As in many of the other activities of life, the excitement of the dating game basically lies in the chase and playing hard to get, than in the capture of the date. Though it is rather interesting to learn what happens when caught, playing hard to get proves to be much more interesting.

When playing hard to get, the pursuee works at keeping the pursuer at bay to seem more alluring and selective to the pursuer. While dating, there is no steadfast rule stating that it is the woman who has to play hard to get or the man. Basically, both men and women tend to play hard to get to get game when dating. However, while playing hard to get, the couple should realize that playing hard to get is not the same as actually being hard to get.

Men tend to play hard to get when they find a woman flirting with them and showing interest in them. By playing hard to get, the man finds out how serious the woman actually is in him. By playing hard to get, he may not answer her phone calls while she continues calling. Men also turn to playing hard to get to look more confident and intriguing to the woman as they know that women tend to prefer having a relationship with a man who is more challenging and not always accessible.

The part of women playing hard to get is usually as a screening device when they meet more than one man interested in them. She usually gives her phone number to all the interested men, only to decide on which calls she would entertain. Returning the calls immediately show that she is too needy and eager. The reason women turn to playing hard to get is to avoid showing desperation for a date. She tends to allure a feeling of mystery by playing hard to get.

However there is a limit to playing hard to get. It is important that both the woman and man know when to stop it. This is because if not stopped on time, the concept of playing hard to get may backfire. Remember, the name of the game is playing hard to get, and not impossible to find! Playing too much of hard to get may end up with both the pursuer and pursuee moving on with their relationships to only drop the cat and dog routine and find new partners.

Though playing hard to get works well as a screening device or integrity test, it is important that the interested suitor or pursuer receive some hint or proof of mutual attraction. This is because no matter how interesting or exciting the game of playing hard to get may become, there has to be a start of a new romantic relationship some place.

It is true that playing hard to get is a part of the dating scene. However once the game is over, it has to stop. Remember that the secret to new relationships lie in access and openness and not only in mixed signs of playing hard to get with each other.